Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Something I want to tell every woman: What he thinks of you is all that matters



  The only thing that matters is his opinion of you. I want to shout this from the rooftops. I want to tell daughters, mothers, aunts, grandmothers, women from all around the world- His opinion does define you. The way he views you, treats you, thinks of you, loves you, talks to you, judges you- it's all that really matters. You are only as big as he makes you out to be. You can only achieve what he thinks you can achieve. Ultimately, he is in control of you. He defines you.

  Now, let me clarify. I am a feminist and I am all about being independent and so-forth, except when it comes to this. I hold true to the fact that while you are in this relationship, he must be greater than you are. You must do everything according to what he says. You have to live for life for him. After all, his opinion defines you. Now this might seem problematic, but it is actually the opposite. It's wonderful. Because I'm not talking about a relationship with just anybody. I'm not talking about the boy that broke your heart in high school or the past marriage you were in that failed. I'm talking about the very important and real relationship with our Creator and King. The relationship that affects every aspect of your life- and as it should. The relationship between you and your Heavenly Father. (for some girls, the only father they've ever had). The only relationship we can be in that demonstrates perfect and flawless love.

  What would you do if I told you there was someone out there that loved you so purely and intimately that they would give their life for you? That they would only speak words of encouragement to you? That they would be always be kind to you, always make you feel beautiful, always love you selflessly? Would you believe me? Or would you turn away, never realizing what was right in front of you? What if I told you that this "someone" was real, and that they want to have your heart if you would only open up to it?

  Women and girls especially spend their whole lives seeking approval from others. It doesn't matter what we're doing- we want people to like us. We crave approval, we need it. We never stop searching for it. Unfortunantly, we can never be satisfied with this world. It will never be able to give us what we need. Maybe we lose the game for the team. Or we don't feel good enough about our weight. Or we lose our dream job. Or that guy broke up with us because we weren't "pretty" enough.  Or our marriage fails. Something always seems to go wrong. We put immense pressure on ourselves. We have to fit gender roles, we have to make money, we have to be pretty. We take personality tests, career tests, educational tests. But ladies, I have good news. The only thing that matters in this torn up, messy life is what He thinks of you. And let me tell you what that is.

Psalm 139:14 God says,“You am fearfully and wonderfully made." 
Jesus encourages us in Romans 8:18, "You have a glorious future"
God tells me in Psalm 17, "I am the apple of His eye."
In Deuteronomy 7:6, God tells me that I am "His treasured possession." 
Genesis 1:27 lets me know "I created you in my own image"
Romans 8:39 reminds us of our stability in Him, "You are utterly secure in me; nothing will be able to separate you from my love in Christ Jesus"
Jesus reminds me I have worth in Matthew 10:31 "You are more valuable than many sparrows"
Psalm 8:5 says, "I have crowned you with glory and honor as the pinnacle and final act of the six days of creation"
In John 14:18 God tells us "You are no longer orphans. You belong to me"
1 John 3:1, God tells us he loves us "And I love you as a perfect Father"

  So, as I repeat, the only thing that matters is His opinion of you. I want to shout this from the rooftops. I want to tell daughters, mothers, aunts, grandmothers, women from all around the world- His opinion does define you. The way He views you, treats you, thinks of you, talks to you, judges you- it's all that really matters.

  Now, the next time you feel as if your failures are defining you, or that you'll never amount to anything, or that you wont compare to other women- I urge you to dive into scripture headfirst. You need to know what God thinks of you, rather than guess what people think of you.

  Ladies: listen to me. Don't settle for the guy that sends you an apology over text when you have the ultimate 1,900 page love note from the One who created you. Don't put so much pressure on yourself in every aspect of your life, learn to bask in the stillness and goodness of the Lord. Don't allow yourself to lower your standards for the man that tells you he loves you while demeaning you, let yourself feel the love from the One that is strong enough to sacrifice himself for you. Don't doubt yourself when God reminds you that you are His masterpiece. Don't define yourself by your mistakes, allow Christ to re-define you. Don't fall into the hook-up culture expecting to find someone to make you feel less lonely, fall into the love of Christ and never be alone again.

Thursday, October 8, 2015

♡ALL ABOUT MY HAIR + HOW I GOT IT BLEACH BLONDE♡

HI BEAUTIES!♡ so one of the most commonly asked questions//compliments i receive is about my hair. so this long awaited post will give you all the inside info on my hair + what it really took to get it bleach blonde! :)

THE LENGTH:

how i got it: "how do you get your hair so long?" is something everyone with long hair gets asked. and as much as i wish i could reveal a secret to how i got my long hair, the answer really is as simple as having the patience to grow it out! most people tend to get super antsy when their hair is growing out and keep it trimmed, or get bored with their look and chop it off in an impulse. (which is awesome!!!!) however, this method wont work if you want to have long locks. i don't get my hair trimmed/split ends cut off but twice a year. all it really takes is patience to wait to have long hair! i'm extremely blessed at the rate that my hair grows. my hair grows fast compared to other people i've talked to, so growing it out wasn't a problem for me. ask your stylist if there are any products you can take to enhance hair growth if you are struggling!

pros/cons of long hair: i've had long hair as long as i can remember, and i love it. however, there are downsides to everything. so here are a couple of frustrating things about long hair that most people don't take into consideration. drying it. ugh. drying long hair is probably the biggest hassle. i prefer showering at night and as soon as i get out of the shower, i go to bed with my hair wet. most mornings when i wake up, my hair (mostly the back) will still be dripping wet, no exaggeration. this makes life difficult because of the fact that i almost always need time in advance (like a whole day) to get ready for events if i want my hair to look decent. also blow-drying doesn't work either. firstly, blow-drying takes an eternity and a half. secondly, after my hair is blow-dried i look like a lion out of  a zoo. at least for me, blow-drying makes my hair extremely frizzy, added to the fact that it's unhealthy for your hair! (which you will try to avoid if you want long, healthy hair!) other cons is that long hair can be a handful (literally). it's a lot to deal with and takes a chunk of your time styling it. curling//straightening my hair usually takes 30 minutes. however, long hair can be awesome. there isn't any hair style that you can't  do. i can throw it all up on top of my head, braid it, leave it down, put it in a pony, almost anything. long hair is fun because of all the many styles you can find to do with it. :)

PRODUCTS I USE:

straightening my hair: for straightening my hair, i just use a normal chi and set it to 250 degrees. i try not to straighten it too often just because of how harsh the temperature//heat can be!

curling my hair: i have multiple different curling irons. none of them are name brand, i get most of them at places like target. i always use at least an inch and a half so that my curls will fall naturally.

other products: i use herbal essence shampoo and conditioner, and use it 3 times a week. after i get out of the shower, i always brush my hair completely out to get rid of any tangles. when you have long hair like me, tangles can get pretty messy, so i squirt a couple sprays of "7 seconds" spray into my hair that you can find at most salons.

STYLING:

how i style my hair: i almost always wear a middle part on my hair. it's super easy and manageable + i'm a huge fan of middle parts because i think they look boho. most days i don't do anything to my hair. for special events, i either straighten, curl, or a little of both. my go to hair style for special events (formals, date night, nice parties) is parting my hair on the side and straightening it all the way through. then, i go back and curl the ends. i do this so that the top of my head looks straight and soft and that the bottom has loose curls falling from it.

THE COLOR:

dyeing my hair: i've dyed my hair a number of times in my life. i love the ability i have to change my color with the season. with that being said, my natural color is a chocolate brown. i have dyed it dark//black every winter for the past 4 years. and this past summer, i actually dyed it bleach blonde. here are the pictures//steps i had to take to get to my blonde locks:


natural color: my natural color is a chocolate brown with subtle highlights
dark color: i do this around fall time to match the season + fall colors! (this is my personal favorite hair color) it's close to black but not exactly! 
october



first step to going blonde: the first step i took was an ombre. i wanted to get the ends lightened, but keep my roots the same. this ended up dyeing most of my hair a lighter shade of brown
february 


which soon after turned to orange.. with very dark roots (yikes!)
march




second step to going blonde: i went and picked up bleach from target and ended up re-bleaching my own hair to cancel out most of the orange and to give me an overall blonde look (still keeping my roots) 
april




third step: i was finally to the point where my hair was light enough to be turned blonde all over! i went to my hair stylist at home and got it professionally done at a salon called goulds. + i also added layers to add some more depth to my hair
june



last step- PLATINUM! : after getting my whole head bleached and dyed (for the 3rd time), my hair continued to get lighter instead of orange. i went on vacation soon after getting it done which gave me a lot of sun time, which ultimately gave me the bleach blonde!
july



back to brown: and after i had been damaging my hair for 6 straight months and after i had achieved the platinum blonde look, i took a step back into reality and realized i needed to give my hair time to breathe again. so i went and got it dyed back a light shade of brown
august
on the way to salon:
 after salon:

fading brown: since my hair had turned so light and had so many rounds of bleach, the brown faded quickly to a dirty blonde//very light shade of brown. 
currently





if any of you have any other questions about my hair- feel free to ask! also, if you would be interested in me starting up a youtube and creating hair + make up tutorials, let me know! thanks all so much for reading♡♡♡