Thursday, January 8, 2015

YOU ARE NOT A COLOR

"Look at yourself as a color. You may not be everybody's favorite color but believe me, one day you will meet someone who needs you to complete their picture."

no. NO. NO!!! 
i want to get inside the mind of everyone that has read this and agreed with it and erase it from their memory.
i get what this post is supposed to be about. 
it's supposed to be the "shake off your haters cuz someone loves you" mentality.
and although i am 100% for that, that's not what the second part of the sentence says.
"you will meet someone who needs you to complete their picture"
...
this is such a common concept in society today and completely toxic!!!
WE ARE NOT COLORS!
we are human beings with feelings, and thoughts, and personalities, and souls, and values, and beliefs, and strengths, and weaknesses, and hearts.
don't demean yourself to a color!
you are all so much more than a ray of light; you are every shade of the entire universe.
as humans, we can't have the mindset that we will someday find someone to "complete us" or that we will "complete them".
love is incredible, don't get me wrong. but love does not complete us.
it's such a common misconception nowadays that the person we are meant to be with will need us to complete them, and vise versa. and it's such a toxic mindset!
it's normal and even a good thing to want to experience everything with your lover.
but once it passes the feeling of "want" to the feeling of "need", it tends to turn negative.
we don't need anybody to make us happy!
we don't need anybody to brighten our day!
we don't need anybody to complete our picture!
we don't need anybody to help us through the rough times!
we don't need anybody to make us feel full of worth!
we want all of these things- which is healthy!
don't wait around for somebody to fix you, or help you, or god forbid, "complete you".
nobody can complete you.
you are complete before and after you meet your soulmate.
"remember that you were art long before he came to admire you, and you'll continue to be art even when he's gone"
we are all masterpieces from a perfect creator and don't need another person to tell us so!
you physically can't spend every waking second with your loved one, so you have to learn to live without them sooner or later
whether it's for 2 hours every day, 2 months, or 2 years, you will be separated from the person you love.
and that's when you have to learn that being on your own isn't so bad.
learn to embrace solitude- it's where you learn the most about yourself.
love yourself.
make yourself happy.
treat yourself.
take yourself out.
pamper yourself.
dress up for yourself.
do everything for yourself- not for others.
don't wait around for someone to make you feel complete, realize that you've been complete all along.