Sunday, May 10, 2015

10 things to thank your Mom for this Mother's Day

(Disclaimer: All of these examples are inspired by real events. This one goes out to you, Mom. I love you more than words could ever describe.)

She's the one that held you in her stomach for 9 months. She's the one that sang to you every night until you fell asleep, and still didn't mind when you ended up crawling in bed with her. She's the one that is always down to fix your favorite meal when you've had a bad day. She's the one that listens to your boy problems, over and over and over again. She's the one that tells you that outfit actually doesn't look good. She's the one that listens to every insignificant detail of your life, yet still seems interested. She's the one that never passes up a shopping trip. She's the one that will always have your back. She's your mom.

Mother's Day cards are often filled with cliches like "Thanks for always being there" or "Thanks for being the best mom in the world" or "Thanks for everything." And it's time we put a stop to it. It's about time we start really thanking our Mother's for all the things they've had to do for us that we tend to forget.

1. Thank you for giving birth to me.
This might seem silly, but it's true. Let's put it in perspective. Your mom had to physically carry you around in her tummy for 9 whole months. That's 37 weeks. 280 days. 24,192,000 seconds of being uncomfortable. We tend to forget how long our mothers had to wait to have us, and had to endure pain to get us. Childbirth is hard and every single one of our mom's went through extreme pain, just to have us. Just to be able to hold you in her arms. Some pregnancies are planned, and some are not. Regardless, your mom decided to give birth to you. She is the sole reason you are living on this earth, taking your every breath. No one else in this world knows you like your mom does- after all, you are a part of her.

2. Thank you for lying to me.
I'm not talking about big lies, I'm taking about the little white lies every mom tells their child. "Yes, you can be an astronaut. Yes, you are the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. Yes, she will want to go on a date with you. Yes, your hair looks good spiked up like that. Yes, you can have the last piece of pie. I didn't want it anyway." It's a mother's instinct to protect their child, and that's exactly what your mom was doing by all of these little fibs she told you. Chances are, most of us aren't really equipped to be an astronaut. But your mom, from a very young age, gave you the mindset that you could do anything. And that confidence will follow you into the rest of your life.

3. Thank you for dinner.
It's 6:00 and you just got out of practice and are exhausted from a long day of school. You drive yourself home and walk into your house to the smell of dinner, ready on the table. You sit down, eat it, and go to your room to text your friends. But you forgot to thank you mom for dinner- and I mean really thank her. Every night, she takes time out of her day to make you a meal. (And probably breakfast. And pack you a lunch.) She has to make a list, go to the grocery store, purchase all the ingredients, and then hand cook a dinner for you for hours. She doesn't know if it'll turn out okay, or if it'll burn, or is she could forget an ingredient. But every night, she makes dinner just so you can have food on the table. Learn to thank her for every meal she makes for you.

4. Thank you for texting me to ask where I am.
I know we joke about it a lot, but it's nice to know someone cares enough about you to always want to know where you are. It might come across as clingy, or over-protective, or annoying, but your mom is always just worried about you. Asking you if you got somewhere safely or if you made it to your friend's house is your mom's way of saying "I care about you and your safety and just want to make sure you're okay."

5. Thank you for not letting me date that one guy.
I think most of us can relate to introducing a boy (or girl) to mom, and not having her approval. "But mooooom he's perfect and really nice!" You'd beg and beg for your mom to change her mind, and didn't understand why she wouldn't. Mother's have intuition and can often see things their children can't. She wasn't fake about it and might have even taken precautions for you to not see this specific person. It might have even been a friend your mom didn't let you hang out with, and it infuriated you. But somehow, it always made sense when the guy you wanted 2 months ago was kicked out of high school for drug possession, or your friend ended up dropping out of college. So, next time your mom tells you something isn't quite right about someone you've been seeing, trust her. She knows what's best for you and won't settle for anything less.

6. And thank you for not telling me "I told you so" when the same guy broke my heart.
No matter what your mom said, you continued to date the guy. You gave away your heart to him, even though she cautioned against it. After the countless discussions and fights about how wrong he is for you, you still went for it. And it didn't work out. As soon as he broke your heart, your mom was the first one to comfort you. Your mom was the one to put on your favorite movie, and convince you it was okay to lay in bed all day and eat an entire tub of ice cream. (Sometimes she even helped you eat it.) Your mom was the one to hold you when you cried because you gave him too much of you, and now you can't get it back. She never laughed. She never blew it off. She never told you to suck it up. And she never said "I told you so"..no matter how badly she wanted to.

7. Thank you for bragging on me.
Mom's are notorious for being biased about their children, and wanting to tell everyone about it. Mom's always think that they do indeed have the best looking child, or that they actually did give birth to the smartest in the class, or that the person on stage is actually their own kid. Your mom never made you feel inadequate in anything that you tried. And the sweet thing about it is that she wasn't acting. Your mom is genuinely proud of you in every single thing you do. Even when you fail, she'll be the one giving you a standing ovation for trying.

8. Thank you for disciplining me.
Not letting me go to that party in 8th grade because I failed my math test seemed like the end of the world to me, but it wasn't. Not letting me go to that party helped me study longer for my next math test, which I aced. Making me have a time out for saying a mean word to the kid next door taught me to choose my words more carefully. Not allowing me to drive as soon as I turned 16 taught me the value in waiting for things you really want. Making me focus on God on Christmas morning helped me learn what the holiday is really about. Mom, thank you for not giving me every single thing I asked for. Thank you for not trying to be a "cool mom" and give me whatever I wanted. Thank you for showing me the value of what's really important.

9. Thank you for taking care of me when I am sick.
Hanging out with somebody that contaminates the air every time they open their mouth doesn't exactly sound like fun, but your mom did it anyways. Every time you're sick, (even if it's just a cold) your mom makes sure you have everything you need to make your day a little better. Before you can even get out a complete sentence of what you want, your mom's already in the kitchen making you chicken noodle soup with a sippy cup of sprite. Even when you're at college, she still face times you and sends medicine in the mail for you to get. It doesn't matter if you're throwing up on yourself, your mom is right by your side the whole time you're ill. Even when you're contagious and pass it on to her, she's still taking care of you.

10. Thank you for being my mom.
I know I'm a handful. I know I can scream at you and fail a test and date the wrong guy and forget to text you when I get to my destination, but you love me anyway. You love me in a way I will never be able to find anywhere else, because no one else is my mom. Thank you for being my best friend and for teaching me everything I know in life. Thank you for your patience, kindness, selflessness, humor, and love throughout the years. I wouldn't be here without you, considering you were the one that gave me life. But now that I'm older, I wouldn't be here without you because I can't bare the thought of going through life without being able to tell you every detail. Happy Mother's Day Mom, you deserve to be celebrated every day.