Friday, June 26, 2015

I'm a Christian + this is my view on equality

Romans 3:23 "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God"


Recently in the news, there has been wide-spread discussion on equality whether it be through transgender, race, sexuality, or other issues. In case you have not heard, earlier today the Supreme Court ruled that marriage equality will now begin in all 50 states. There has been an uproar since I woke up this morning and checked my social media. I follow varying popular accounts from "feminism4u" to "instagodministries" and what I found on the comments section was truly appalling. When I read the comments among the so called "liberal" postings, they were filled with encouragments and positive energy. When I read the comments under the Bible accounts I follow, I wasn't expecting the same response as before. After all, it IS a sin in the bible to be gay. But I wasn't expecting to read what I did. I came across all sorts of nasty and crude comments from "Gay people will rot in hell" to "Gay people don't deserve to live" to the one I am sharing below.


This woman was debating people left and right on the post that I was reading, so I decided to give her the benefit of a doubt and try to understand what she was saying. I've tried to agree with her. I've kept my mouth shut through the recent months because of my faith. I wanted to agree with what a fellow believer said. I've tried to keep my opinion to myself. But I can't do it anymore.

This woman made claims left and right that are simply false about the Bible. She starts off by saying "If you are still sinning, you are not a Christian." As I attached at the very beginning of this post, Romans 3:23 says differently. The fact that a woman can make the statement that she does not sin, shows me how little she knows of The Lord and his everlasting goodness. Since the beginning of time when Adam and Eve were in the garden, sin entered the world. It has taken many different forms throughout the years, but nonetheless still prominent. It doesn't matter if you're gay, a criminal, transgender, black, white, boy, girl, anything. You sin. You sin every single second of every single day. There would be no point in Jesus dying on the cross if we were perfect, like Him. The whole point of the Gospel is that God sent his son to die for us, so that we may live. He died on the cross to cover our sins. She continues in her argument, believing that if you have sinned, you will not enter Heaven. This part makes me really, really sad. Because this woman, a self proclaimed believer, seems to be confused on the entire part of the gospel. Ephesians 2:8-9 "For by grace you have been saved by faith. And this is not your own doing, is is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast." If our eternal salvation was based on our works, no one on God's earth would be able to enter Heaven. That's the point of how incredible our God is- that he gives us eternal life, although we all don't deserve it. No matter what you do, if you have Jesus in your heart, you are a Believer. One of her final points is that there is no such thing as a gay Christian. This one really hit me hard. I know a lot of people that are in the LGBT community. And I'm not going to say that they are all great people, or even that all of them are christians. Because that's not true. Not everybody that is straight is a good person, or even a christian. But I have met a fair amount of people fighting for equality, and I found something about them that I don't think most people, or Christians for that, know. It's an earth-shattering fact and something that might shock you. Here it is: They aren't so far from us.

I'm a 19 year old female. Straight. White. Christian. Go to a Christian college. Go to church every Sunday. From the outside in, I'm a good person. But that couldn't be further from the truth. I sin. Every day. I live in my sin and I like my sin because it makes life easier. I'm addicted to my sin. I crave to rid myself of it, and pray to the Lord every night to rid me of it, but I wake up every morning still the same. I wake up in the morning and sin until the sun goes down, every day. No exceptions. I lie and lust and cheat and disobey and thrive in my sin. But people don't talk down on me, because I'm a 19 year old female. White. Christian. Go to a Christian college. Go to church every Sunday.

But what about this...

I'm a 22 year old male. Gay. Black. Christian. Go to a Christian college. Go to church every Sunday. From the outside in, I'm a bad person. I sin. Every day. I live in my sin and I like my sin because it makes life easier. I'm addicted to my sin. I crave to rid myself of it, and pray to the Lord every night to rid me of it, but I wake up every morning still the same. I wake up in the morning and sin until the sun goes down, every day. No exceptions. I lie and lust and cheat and disobey and thrive in my sin. But people talk down on me, because I'm a 22 year old male. Gay. Black. Christian. Go to a Christian college. Go to church every Sunday.

By us Christians judging and condemning other for their actions, puts us on a pedestal. What we are saying is "Gay people live in sin every second?! What a terrible thing to do!!!" as if we don't do the same exact thing. Although I am not gay, I do know gay people that wish they were not that way. And they try to suppress it. And they live in denial. But somehow, the truth always comes out. If you are not gay, or trans, you cannot imagine what it is like to feel that way. To feel lost every single day. To feel different, and to be bullied for it. 

•   81.9% of students who identify as LGBTQ were bullied in the last year based on their sexual orientation (National School Climate Survey, 2011).
•    Nearly half of young transgender people have seriously thought about taking their lives, and one quarter report having made a suicide attempt.
•    Suicide attempts are nearly two times higher among Black and Hispanic youth than White youth. [7]
•   LGB youth are 4 times more likely, and questioning youth are 3 times more likely, to attempt suicide as their straight peers. [2]
For the record, I do believe that being gay is a sin.
I do believe that changing your gender is a sin. 
I do believe that lying is a sin. 
I do believe that lusting is a sin.
I do believe that disobeying your parents is a sin. 
I do believe that sex before marriage is a sin.
I do believe that judging is a sin.
I do believe that cheating is a sin. 
I do believe that gossiping is a sin.
I do believe that pride is a sin. 
But who am I to pick and choose which sins are worse? Sin is sin and sin is terrible, but we all do it. Regardless of your race, gender, sexuality, etc- you are a sinner and the amazing thing about God is that He loves you anyway.

If I didn't know better and I was told the definition of Christian and was shown the 2 different posts to read the comments under, I would choose the liberal post as Christians. I'm disgusted that Christians response to society today is so often bullying, bashing, and abusing other people. As Christians, we are called to love everyone. Not just people with the same race as us. Or gender. Or sexuality. Or income. Or beliefs. Or style. John 13:34-35 says "A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” By constantly pointing fingers and judging others, we are teaching the outside world that Christians hate non-Christians. As the verse says, if we love others, that is how people should know we are Christians.

I've always been an accepting person, and I'm glad I am that way. I'm glad I can walk down the street and not be filled with hatred, like so many. I do not believe homosexuality is right, but I will choose to look past the sin and look at the person. If I was defined by all of my sin, I would be hated too. Just because certain people's sin is evident to the world doesn't make it any more than yours. I will hate the sin and love the sinner, because that's the very reason I have eternal life.

Looking down upon someone because they are different than you has to stop, and it has to stop in the Church. We need to help the people that need help. And we need to witness to people that need to be witnessed to. Our response cannot be hatred anymore. Our response can be love.

To any people viewing this post that have suffered through inequality for any reasons-
I am sorry on behalf of the Church. I am sorry for not letting you feel welcome to come join the sunday school class. I am sorry for belittling your problems. I am sorry for blaming you. I am sorry for not welcoming you with open arms into my house. I am sorry for judging you. I am sorry for thinking I am better than you. I am sorry for grouping you into categories you do not belong to. I am sorry for not loving you as Christ loves you and me.

To any person that is in the Faith and is made uncomfortable by this post-
I didn't make this post to be comfortable. I did it because it needs to be said. I am sick and tired of Christians hating on people that do not live life the same way they do. Just because someone doesn't share your interests or values or faith does not mean you cannot love them the same, and eventually, through that love, point them to Christ.